Bondage sex means to tie down one of the two sex partners and then to start sexual intercourse with him or her. This requires a submissive and a dominant partner. Many couples incorporate bondage into their sex lives, often sporadically but sometimes more regularly, and find sexual bondage to be a highlight of their sex life. This sometimes takes the form of a sex game or the enactment of a partner's sexual fantasy. Bedroom bondage games are commonly used as a form of foreplay. It requires and implies a level of trust and a surrender of control by the restrained to the active partner. The restrained partner surrenders total control to the other partner. This surrender of control happens voluntarily and under mutual understatement and consensus. The main feature of sexual bondage is that it renders the restrained person vulnerable to a variety of sex acts and is unable to interfere in the ensuing sexual activity. The restrained partner is dependent for their sexual satisfaction on the actions of their partner, who may treat the restrained partner as their sex object. There are many reasons why people allow themselves to be tied up. Some people feel a kind of freedom during corporal passivity, they can concentrate on their inner spirituality and feel at peace. Others experience helplessness, struggle against their bonds, and feel a degree of masochistic pleasure from the restraint and pain, as well as being unobstructed for erotic simulation by their partner. Bondage can be relatively simple to apply, enabling improvisation using household items and little experience. Bedroom bondage is usually mild bondage, with one partner voluntarily being put into restraints by being tied up or handcuffed. blindfolds are a common part of bedroom play. The restrained partner is then typically sexually stimulated by masturbation, fingering, oral sex, a vibrator, or intercourse. Bondage can also be used for purposes other than sexual foreplay. For example, it may be used in erotic tickling or for sexual teasing. The free partner may derive erotic pleasure or achieve sexual arousal from being in a dominant situation, while the tied partner may achieve arousal from being in a largely "helpless" position in the hands of a trusted partner. Either way, the partners are usually playing out bondage games to act out their sexual fantasies.
Following methods of common bondage sex positions have been documented in articles
- Doggy style fuck in handcuffs
- Self-bondage masturbation
- Bondage spread eagle
- Tied deckchair sex position